Topic: I told this girl i like her. now what?
July 18, 2019 / By Goddard Question:
we are both college students and i have known her for about two months now.. i always see her in the morning when shes alone before class starts, we don't hangout that much with other friends.. one day i took the same route as hers going back home, and when we talk, we act like we have known each other for a long time; i tell jokes and she laughs a lot, not just giggling but as if she really is enjoying my company, when i tease her she hits my stomach/shoulder, so i guess both of us enjoy talking with each other.. after that day she asked me if i wanted to take the same route with her to school and i accepted. It was the same, making her giggle and laugh a lot xD.. i did not know i was into her, until i did not see her one morning and felt really lonely.. so i decided to try not getting stock in the "friendzone".. after a week, i sent her a text saying" i forgot to tell you sth important".. so i accompanied her to her job, and we hanged out. We went to a dunkin donuts and when we were talking i told her "remember that important thing i mentioned but couldn't tell you over the fone or in the morning? [she said yes desperate asking for more info] "the important news is that i like you, i feel that i you are the one, and i dont want to have you as just friends".. she had such a surprised face and speechless, while sucking her ice coffee from the straw [cutee]. She said she could not give me an answer right now, and i immediately told her that i was not asking her out, just letting her know how i feel. We kept talking as if nothing happened, we laugh and joke around.. also she told me [after my confession] that she have diabetes, and have to drink some pills.. she said that i was the only one that knows about that and that not even her ex knew about it[making seen that im kinna a special guy idk i guess].. so what do you nice ppl think? what do i do next?? should i bring up the topic in the morning? should i act like nothing happened? we havnt texted, i got drunk and i dont have my fone wit me, and she doesn't use fb that much..
this morning she was not there.. normally when shes not there i text her and ask her where she is, and we hangout in the morning, but i dont have my fone back jet =/ .. and when i saw her, she was kind of weird. She was with her friend and we did hugged as a hello, but i had to make the first move [like she did not wanted to say hello idk] and i we did not talk at all, i was in a hurry.. so shes not into me, i guess? should i see her tom again? or just give it time?
Doyle | 8 days ago
wow...i saw this question and then I shut down my computer..and it bothered me that I didn't respond to it or at least comment on it but now problem solved :)
to be honest, I think u should bring it up? but that's just me...that would just bother me if someone acts like nothing happened.
I think she likes you...just reading the passage, I could pick up clues that she likes u...(laughing at your jokes and inviting you to walk with her and the confession that she made with you). You should consider that probably the reason she didn't respond to your confession that you didn''t like her is that maybe she was confused/emotional (for instance, in some circumstance, i'm not the type of person to answer questions on the spot...which is probably why I would do so good at debating xD) to act around that time, or maybe she isn't allowed to date. Try to understand why she is feeling this way before making some assumptions of whether she likes you or not...i know its hard...us teens are always like we wanna know NOW that kind of stage...but give it some thought.
btw....i totally applaud u for sharing ur feelings w/ her...some guys are shy of doing that..and I would totally share my feelings towards guys I liked and will ask guys out if it weren't for the restriction of me till college by parents
on another note...may I recommend this website to you..it might not apply to u..but it is WELL written and u learn so much by reading this article
Man u made my day with the following phrase: " she had such a surprised face and speechless, while sucking her ice coffee from the straw [cutee]" ahaha
Um anyway take it easy just talk normally and it will work out somehow I guess but we as girls want guys to take initiative it makes our life easier :P
HERE'S THE THING SHE DIDN'T SAY NO AND SHE DIDN'T SAY LETS JUST BE FRIENDS . SHE MAY HAVE ACTUALLY BEEN SURPRISED BY YOUR CONFESSION . SHE PROBABLY DOES LIKE YOU BUT NEEDS TIME TO THINK ON IT . IF ANYTHING LET HER KNOW YOUR NOT GOING TO PUSH OR RUSH HER FOR A DISCCESSION. SHE KNOWS YOUR INTERESTED IN HER SO SHE KNOWS SHE MAY NEED TO RESPOND TO THAT SO GIVE HER THE TIME SHE NEEDS. ALSO THERE MAY BE FACTORS IN HER DISECCSION YOU MAY BE UNAWARE OF AND SHE MAY NOT HAVE DELVELGED TO YOU. HER HOME LIFE/ PARENTS / SIBLINGS/
MAY OR MAY NOT HAVE AN EX BOYFRIEND SHE MAY NOT BE OVER YET. AND MAY EVEN BE CONCERNED ABOUT HOW A RELATIONSHIP MATY AFFECT HER STUDIES AND WHAT EVER GOALS SHE MAY HAVE SET FOR HERSELF. AS SAID SHE SAID NO NEGATIVE THINGS WHICH IS A GOOD SIGN IN MY OPINION
you dont want to start being the pushy kind of guy. dont be like "so do you like me? huh? huh? dyou like me?" take it slow. give her some time. maybe bring it up in a few days. just be honest, and ask her for an answer. no matter what she says DO NOT freak out. that way you can still be her friend. i hope it works out for you!
ask her out.. ask her to a movie or something. Just do something! If you think she is the one and you like her this much then ask her out. Just do something... the longer you wait the more time she has to find someone else!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!