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How do you deal with family members who don’t like you?

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June 16, 2019 / By Alyson
Question: I come from a culture where kids are somewhat mini-adults with a good share of personal and household responsibilities. For example, doing homework, making beds, laundry, cleaning the bathroom, taking out trash, catching the school bus etc I do most of this stuff cause I naturally feel like I have to do it but my younger brothers (14&17)on the other hand do very little in their part. They take responsibility whenever they feel like it and that’s usually never. Now its really getting to my nerves. I cant take the case to my busy parents cause it will be a mistrial and I aint down with that shyt. Im losing patience with their immaturity and i don’t know what to do. Oh btw they don’t like me cause im like their personal party pooper. As an older sibling how do I deal with this? Any advice??
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Vin Vin | 10 days ago
You are the older sibling. Simply tell them that your parents are busy people and that they need to take their share of responsibility. Make sure you talk to them like adults though.
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Vin Originally Answered: How do you deal with bigoted, opinionated family members?
This is an age-old quandary. Are you a hypocrite for not speaking up? Are you missing an opportunity in not educating the ignorant by not correcting their bigotry? I am not sure, but what I do is to avoid participation in any joke, racially insensitive remark, or other bigoted statements by walking away or not commenting. I don't view that as week or hypocritical, but rather diplomatic. It also gives you an opportunity to educate by example and perhaps get your message across without being confrontational. I have personally not found confrontation to be a working strategy when it comes to people's personal beliefs.

Rowley Rowley
Hm I was the same boat as you before. My mom remarried and it was hard for the other kids to accept me and do their part in the house and til now they still dont really accept me. But what I did at first was our family set us a schedule on who does what in the house and on what days. If that doesnt help just show your parents (whenever they're around, that you do your part in the household) If that doesn't work write a letter to them. Or If THAT doesn't work, just don't do anything, and explain how you have been doing all that work. Im sure that will get your siblings and parents attention. Hope that helped =]
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Mordechai Mordechai
My advice to you is don't worry about others so much. You keep up the good work because it's all preparing you to be successful in life, and you will be if you don't keep worrying about others not pulling their weight. It's far better to be a hard worker and an achiever than a slouch!
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Keefe Keefe
You have no choice but to let your parents knew about this. But if you can bear it then, its up to you.
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Keefe Originally Answered: Christians: Dealing with family members?
>> doesn't it say we should confront fellow believers in the Bible?         Not in the way you are doing it. You are basically getting upset and confronting them with your emotions. You are also confronting them with the idea (or the hope) that you can change them or cause them to change. That is not realistic -- and not Biblical. Trying to block someone's progress out of your room is not what Jesus would have done. Laying your hand on your sister to force her to do as you want is also not what Jesus would have done. Turning the other cheek is about getting out of people's way and not trying to force other people to your will.         I can identify with your situation, though, because my wife has a personality much like a combination of both your brother and your sister. Though I do pray for her, mostly I pray for myself that through a Holy Spirit transformation of my character, I will learn to deal with it as Jesus would. I recognize that I cannot change her nor try to make her see how she is and, hopefully, change herself. Instead, I wish to develop the same patient and peaceful demeanor which Christ had when dealing with the Pharisees and the Sadducees. Did He occasionally have critical words for them? Yes. But He was perfect and, therefore, well justified. I am not.         Final advice? All the Bible really has for a formula for dealing with interpersonal troubles is the following: Mat. 18:15,16 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. (16) But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.         In your case, the witnesses should be your parents. If your parents have no control over your brother and sister, then perhaps a knowledgeable and sympathetic friend of theirs outside of the family is your only recourse. Basically, you need a witness which is someone they respect. The rest of the Bible's advice applies to actual, outright, and egregious sin (which troubles getting along inside a family is not in that category). Mat. 18:17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as a heathen man and a publican.         So, ignoring someone can be justified. ;-) Just make sure it is done without rudeness and in love. God bless.

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