Originally Answered: Why did I have a decrease in sexual pleasure after childbirth? what can i do to regain sexual pleasure?
Everyone’s experiences make them an expert in their own right - so what is right for one couple may not be appropriate for another. Most couples wait for the magical 6 week mark and are dreadfully disappointed when that incredible pre birth sex doesn’t happen. The physical facts are that within six weeks of birthing, your uterus should be back to its pre-pregnancy weight and size. Breastfeeding assists in stimulating the hormones released around this function. This is the reason that you are meant to have a six week check up and then are medically are ‘fit’ to commence intimate relations. Ignored and unaddressed are the emotional and psychological changes that have occurred.
I have had 2 children, birthing them naturally. With the first one, I was so devastated, shocked and horrified at my experience and unprepared for the hormonal and bodily changes, that I was really uninterested for months afterwards - even though I did have sex at that 6 week mark - to please my husband. However, with the birth of my daughter, I was in a much better space, prepared and ready and was ready to go within a week. It all depends I guess, on your birth experience and the damage ( physically and mentally) that you have endured and the meanings you place upon those experiences in relation to sex.
The physical facts are that your vagina has changed shape and firmness - this can be remedied - through the pevic floor ex - and look up Be Wa balls - inserted for short periods to stregthen those muscles.
The emotional facts are a bit hazyer - your role has changed from lover to mother and many women find it hard to accept that thay can be both. You need to reconnect with yourself as a sensual being before exploring anothers body and fully enjoying sex like you used to.
My advice is to keep an open and honest communication link with your partner and take things slowly – with little pressure – and connect again with yourself as a sensual being, before attempting to touch another.