Why do I Obsess over death?
Topic: Why do I Obsess over death?
July 20, 2019 / By Cameo Question:
Everyday all day I cant stop thinking about death, usually with my family. I often have nightmares that my parents died. And when I think about my mom or dad dying I cry! Even though they are still alive. Why do I obsess about it so much? And if it makes me so sensitive and cry right now, how am I going to possibly handle it when they do die one day????
I am 19, and a normal girl, is this normal though? Has anyone ever heard of this?
Best Answers: Why do I Obsess over death?
Alyssa | 10 days ago
Well, death is very real. Often times people fail to realize that the only certainty we have is that we will die some day. Over thinking that is just as bad as any extreme. "Too much of anything is bad" you might have heard.
Yours seems more like a fear than an obsession. An obsession often fascinates the person, but you cry; suffer, you hurt yourself!
No, it is not normal for people to go around thinking about people's death everyday.
If it does happen to your family you will have no choice but to handle it. So, for now: every time you find your imagination carried away by death: you will already know that it only leads you to suffering. You now know that you need to give your imagination a responsible turn and either think or plan the pleasant things you might want to do with your family while they are alive. Check on them and tell them that you love them.
Over time, you'll stop crying and suffering... and over time, you will have coped with all those unfinished businesses you have with them. You would only cry if they died because you either did not tell them or showed them how much you loved them while they were alive. Guilt is realy what causes us to cry when our loved ones go (if i had done this, if I had not done that...Bla, bla bla...) Apologize to them if you owe them an apology, express them your love now if you feel that you have not done that enough.
Love is not a sick way of being all over them until they're forced to repel you. Love can be as subtile as praying for them or just wishing them well. Pray or wish well for yourself, your family and humanity... you'll start to get out of that depression and feel freer.
👍 288 | 👎 10
Did you like the answer? Why do I Obsess over death?
Share with your friends
Originally Answered: What do you think of this quote from my professor about people who obsess on "Judge not lest ye be judged."?
Yes Paul's teachings are the near polar opposite of the things that Jesus taught and stood for.
Paul’s dilemma is not rare or even that uncommon. If taken in a modern context his problems are not that difficult to diagnose. His writings hint that he likely had some sort of a seizure disorder that plagued him most of his life. We can’t be sure if this is epileptic or cause by some vascular incident like stroke or from head trauma. In his own words while traveling to Damascus he experienced a blinding light and collapsed to the ground. At the same time hearing disembodied voices that he interpreted as revelation.
People who have strokes often experience these light events along with the perception that they are hearing voices or experiencing thoughts that originate from some external source. A few even express the opinion that they are conversing with God. There have even been cases where these people suddenly begin writing complex theological dissertations that are quite convincing to themselves and others. Later in acts we read that his particular version of the message of Jesus was at times not that well received. One notable occasion tells of a stoning that he received. Stoning was a particular barbaric way of expressing ones opinion of the one being stoned and it may have exacerbated Paul’s problems. The idea with stoning is to see who can bounce the largest rock off of the head of the one being stoned. One can only imagine the possibilities for brain damage in this situation. Brain damaged people often have light events and claim to hear voices or be privy to externally generated thoughts.
The point that I an trying to make is that Paul is much maligned by many biblical scholars because they see him as corrupting the true teachings of Jesus and purposely replacing it with his theological fantasies.
I feel that for whatever the reason, Paul truly believed that he was in direct contact with God.
Had this same thing happened to him in more recent times he would have been arrested, hospitalized and most likely medicated until he was better.
Love and blessings
I am the same age, normal like you. and I do the same thing too. Its just something you have to let go. when I get into those nightmares and such I try to pull myself out. I have no idea why, maybe its to remind myself if I lost the people I loved I would be devastated. It reminds me that those are the best people in my life, and I need to treat them with respect and appreciate them. No worries though, because they are alive and well. The thing that I have done is that I accept death already. As much as it will hurt, if you live it and love it and show your love and appreciation, you will be just fine. dont worry about it girl, and stop obsessing! Its off and on for me. but it really is not good to obsess over it.
👍 120 | 👎 3
You are very sensitive. I think perhaps excessively. You may want to consider talking to a Professional regarding this. While it is true that everyone will die it does seem that you may be obsessing. I actually have heard of something similar happening to a relative about your age. She went to counseling and was given medication for a while and was helped tremendously. While everyone is different everyone deserves to be happy. Best of luck and big hugs. If you are in the States there is listings of mental help available in the front of the phone book.
👍 111 | 👎 -4
Hi...yes it "normal" enough in that it can happen to anyone. What can happen is that in a persons past lifetime there may be some tragic death that the person has a lot of "charge" (trauma) on. For some reason this is restimulating (reactivating) in present time. This could be because of some similar threat that you were exposed to recently that brought it into reactivation....or has it been like it for as long as you can recall? Feel free to message me.
There is a technique called auditing which is a kind of counselling that releases the charge from these past incidents so that you are able to get on with life without being troubled by this feeling.
I have had lots of auditing and it helped me deal with lots of stuff. I remember I used to have butterflies in my stomach feeling and during one session of auditing it totally released and has never been back!
👍 102 | 👎 -11
You maybe need to grow less dependent on your parents, at 19 you should start to accept that they will die one day.
I think it's easier for guys because most of us don't like talking to our parents but for girls you just need to mature a bit more.
I used to be scared of dying and had health problems which could have killed me. I used to get upset but eventually I saw no point in crying and got on with my life. You should stop asking what if and start living your life, don't be scared.
👍 93 | 👎 -18
Has someone you know around your age recently died I wonder. If it's more than a "funk" and persists longer than a few weeks I'd say talk to someone!
👍 84 | 👎 -25
To be prepared approximately something "death" subsequently is to be single minded in this one particular to the exclusion of all else.... that all and sundry efforts or endeavors are concentrated this in one section without concept to every physique or something.... to realize the perfect purpose...... no longer something concerns.
👍 75 | 👎 -32
loving your parents so much that your afraid of losing them is more normal then you know. Don't torture yourself with your worst fear over and over again. Everyone dies when its time and you will hurt bad enough when it happens let alone the torture your putting yourself through unnecessarily.
👍 66 | 👎 -39
If i think about dying or someone i love dying I will still to cry I dunno why I just guess I'm really emotional!
Help me with my question?
👍 57 | 👎 -46
Originally Answered: young couple starves their 4 month old to death. not getting death penalty.opinions?
This is a truly horrible story. You mentioned the cost of keeping these lunatics in jail for the rest of their lives. You may be surprised to find out that the death penalty is actually much more expensive than life in prison because of the upfront expenses of the legal process which is supposed to prevent executions of innocent people. (Upfront = before and during the initial trial). It probably will not change your opinion of the death penalty, but here are excerpts from reports of a couple of individual states:
Washington State “At the trial level, death penalty cases are estimated to generate roughly $470,000 in additional costs to the prosecution and defense over the cost of trying the same case as an aggravated murder without the death penalty and costs of $47,000 to $70,000 for court personnel.” (Final Report of the Death Penalty Subcommittee of the Committee on Public Defense, Washington State Bar Association, December 2006,
Kansas: “The study counted death penalty case costs through to execution and found that the median death penalty case costs $1.26 million. Non-death penalty cases were counted through to the end of incarceration and were found to have a median cost of $740,000. For death penalty cases, the pre-trial and trial level expenses were the most expensive part, 49% of the total cost. The investigation costs for death-sentence cases were about 3 times greater than for non-death cases. The trial costs for death cases were about 16 times greater than for non-death cases ($508,000 for death case; $32,000 for non-death case).” (. Kansas: Performance Audit Report: Costs Incurred for Death Penalty Cases: A K-GOAL Audit of the Department of Corrections)
North Carolina: The most comprehensive death penalty study in the country found that the death penalty costs North Carolina $2.16 million more per execution than the a non-death penalty murder case with a sentence of life imprisonment (http://www.deathpenaltyinfo.org/northcar...
links to ("The Costs of Processing Murder Cases in North Carolina" Duke University, May 1993)
Other states report similar findings. Why are death penalty cases so expensive? Here are just a few of the contributing factors:
• more pre-trial time will be needed to prepare: cases typically take a year to come to trial
• more pre-trial motions will be filed and answered
• more experts will be hired
• twice as many attorneys will be appointed for the defense, and a comparable team for the prosecution
• jurors will have to be individually quizzed on their views about the death penalty, and they are more likely to be sequestered
• two trials instead of one will be conducted: one for guilt and one for punishment
• the trial will be longer: a cost study at Duke University estimated that death penalty trials take 3 to 5 times longer than typical murder trials
http://www.deathpenaltyinfo.org/COcostte... page 3 and 4 on why the death penalty is so expensive