Originally Answered: Help: I want to runaway?
OK, sounds like you need to bail out, and you have given it both some time and some thought. Your goal is to get out of your house to a safe place where you can again start to enjoy life. Only you can decide if you are in harms way.
This is not easy. It depends a lot on where you live. I don't know where you live, but it would be useful to us if you told us what nation you are in, or even better what town. Then we may be able to give you direct suggestions of places to go.
Your first move, if you are in the USA, is to make contact with your Children and Family Services agency in your town. What ever you do you will end up with them eventually so you might as well start out by making the first move and contacting them. At least then the contact will be on your terms and under your control, and not because you were picked up by the police and are in a situation out of your control.
Without knowing where you live, I can only suggest some simple solutions. You have three or four options.
1) Contact the agency that is responsible for child welfare in where you live. You can probably go and talk to them anomalously with out your parents knowing you went to see them. Explain your situation and ask them for help. At first they will not be too keen. You probably have to go back and ask every week for a month or two before they get around to helping you. Don't just call on the phone, go in person if you can, and make them write up a report. Be honest with them. If your father has threatened you be truthful about it, but don't make stuff up. They are pros at seeing through stories. If you make stuff up they will not help you.
2) Ask a friends parents if you can go and live with them, in their house, and if they will protect you. I suggest you look for a family that tends to take in strays. For example a family that already has two children and two dogs. Go and ask the mother and father if you can live with them and if they will protect you. Explain that you are serious and living with them would be better than running away. (You may be able to still go to your old school, but it may be better if they can get you into a different one.) Children and family services may help you arrange this as a temp solution.
3) Try asking your parents if you can live for a while with some of your relatives in a different town. Think up any excuse you can. Write to all your aunts and uncles and start sending letters. Soon they will get to know you and maybe one will offer to take you of your parents hands for a while. If you have your parents blessing this will work, but if not they may turn you back over to your father.
4) Find out who the agency for runaways is in your town or part of the country. Do some research and find a way to visit them to check the pace out. Talk to some of the other girls and make sure it would be a safe place for you. Find out what it's really like. Runaway shelters are not fun, they are often violent, and the kids there are for the most part not very happy or nice. This is a last resort option if Children and Family services could not help you. Shelters are much better than the streets, but it ain't home.
5) Just running away. This is a VERY dangerous option, and at your age will probably lead to rape and physical harm. It is very difficult for a thirteen year old girl to get a job and a safe place to live. It is also almost impossible to keep up your school work which will mean you will have very poor job opportunities for the rest of your life. This is not a good solution unless you have a couple of places worked out to run TO. Before you run, figure out where you are running to, and have a backup plan as well. Honestly, if you end up on the streets of a big city, you will probably be both addicted to drugs and working as a prostitute within a few months. Do not end up on the streets. Seek a shelter that houses teens.
If you leave home, or are even thinking about it do some preparation first:
a) Make sure you have a way to contact your friends, brothers and sisters through a mutual friend who will act as telephone relay.
b) Prepare a pack with your identity papers and phone lists. Passport, school id card, health or medical card, any other card with your name or identity. I suggest you put them in a waterproof zip lock bag.
c) Get some free web space and post your pone contact lists and your identity document information on the page so if they get stolen you can log on and get the data back.
d) Do as much research before hand as you can, and have names, phone numbers, address and web sites written down.
e) Have a list of all your relatives, names, address, emails and phone numbers in case you end up near them and have to ask for a favor, like borrowing money or spending a couple of nights sleeping on their couch. Your parents may not give them to you after you have gone and the contacts may be very useful later. Make a family tree, with all the contact information. Get the info from your parents by telling them it is a family preparedness project for school.
f) Make three copies of everything, one printed out with you at all times, and one on the web where you can get to it by logging on to your free web page, and one stashed with a trusted friend. The set should include all your identity documents numbers and info, and if you can, digital images of the pages from your passport and other identity documents. (When you run away your money and identity docs are the first things they steal, other than your virginity.)
Never give the documents to any body else for any reason. You can show them, they can make a photo copy, but never let any one else keep them.
Note: You can tell your parents your photocopying your identity documents, or scanning them to digitalize them is part of a school preparedness project.
g) Make sure you take your best walking pair of shoes, and stuff to make you look clean. Soap, shampoo, hair brush etc. You may be down and out but don't look it otherwise you may be picked up. I also suggest as much money as you can, changes of underwear and small pillow, the pillow makes life better.
h) Make sure you have your library card, so you can get to use the computers in the public library, that way you can stay in touch with friends, find out what is happening, and research your options.
i) Have two backpacks, one your main one and one for going around the town when your main one is stashed some place very safe. With just a small bag you will not look like a runaway. Keep your documents, contact lists, money, toothbrush and hair brush in the small bag and keep it with you ALL the time. Sleep with it. If they steal the big bag you can in time replace the stuff in that, but not the important stuff in the small bag so keep it with you at all time.
j) Have your bag packed and ready to go. You never know just when you have to bail out and go.
LAST, or FIRST - Try talking to your muslim fiends at school. Maybe they are having problems with their family too, maybe they too are losing faith. Look for the girls who are good at science or math, start talking to others at school about how you feel. I think you will find others who are in the same boat as you.
Being a teen muslim girl can be very dangerous. For example:http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk...
If you are in the USA and feel in danger or need help you can call one of the following:
Abuse, Rape, Incest Hotline: 1- 800-656-HOPE
Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD
Covenant House Crisis Line: 1-800-999-9999 (Good one)
Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE
National Runaway Switchboard: 1-800-621-4000 (good one)
National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE
Peer Violence Hotline: 1-87-REPORT-IT
Youth Depression Hotline: 1-800-HIT-HOME
Young and Pregnant Hotline: 1-800-550-4900
If you are in the USA, print this list and keep it with you at all times. If your parents find the list just tell them it was given to you by school and that you are meant to give it to friends if they need help.
If I know the country, city or zip code I can probably give your a much better idea of where you need to go for help or who you should call.