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Why people say their sexuality is no ones business? Yet if a lesbian flirts with me, I have no right to ask?

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June 20, 2019 / By Dalya
Question: her if she's a lesbian? Isn't that making it my business by her flirting with me. Straight girl, just wondering!! hypothetical question. Been there done that. Just told her I wasn't gay and wasn't interested in anything more than a friendship. But everyone told me it's wrong to ask someones sexuality.
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Blossom Blossom | 7 days ago
You ARE allowed to ask people this, just be polite about it and know when it is appropriate and when it isn't. If you go asking your boss, strangers or random people at work, that isn't cool. If the person is a close friend or a family member you CAN ask but understand they have a right to privacy if they choose not to share. If someone is flirting with you, if they have asked you out on a date or if you plan to sleep with them you have 100% of a RIGHT to ask this! If they made the move on you, they opened up their life to another person. If they are not comfortable being honest, they should not be looking for any relationship. If you don't want to date her and you TOLD her you aren't gay, then she should take a hint. Sometimes just like guys, lesbians can get the wrong idea. If you flirt back, if you tease or if you lead people on, this will happen and you will end up feeling awkward. She knows you are not gay. Asking her a question like this when you probably KNOW the answer might make it seem like you are into her. That probably isn't what you want! It IS wrong to ask about a person's sexual orientation but ONLY when it isn't any of your business. Unless that person is involved in your life, what they do in private does not have any effect on you. So why ask? Would YOU like it if some person put you on the spot and asked you a bunch of sex questions? Would you be offended? Or would you think they were flirting with you? Maybe you should consider this and just say nothing. I hope this helps. Good luck!
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Blossom Originally Answered: Thesis on Human Sexuality?
"There are numerous possibilities that can shape ones human sexuality and many explanations that can help one understand why. " I'd try to stay away from the word one too much even though it's somewhat formal. "There are multiple theories on how human sexuality is developed through the use of explanations such as... (Maybe list the main topics you'll be discussing?)" I suggest using the word develop but it's entirely up to you. :) Hope this helps!

Aisling Aisling
If someone is flirting with you, that's a different matter. Yes, she's making it your business if she flirts with you. But in general, a person's sexuality is not other people's business. . Is that actually happening, or are you just asking a hypothetical question?
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Trafford Trafford
It's your business if you're involved. If a girl is flirting with you then you could assume she's into chicks. Though it might be a bit rude to straight out ask 'are you a lesbian?'
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Redmond Redmond
Actually you do have the right to ask. The only time it's not someones business is when someone is just sitting there minding their own business then someone walks up to them and asks them. It's okay dude, some people say that because they're weird. :p I dunno. I don't do that anyways. Haha. I only get pissed off when people see me and they recognize that I'm a girl and they ask "What, are you a lesbian or something?? You sure look like one."
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Matty Matty
You have every right to ask. The whole "my sexuality is my business thing" usually only stems from the whole gay marriage thing. But if a gay girl flirts with you or even a bisexual one. You have every right to ask her. In my opinion.
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Joby Joby
Well if someone is obviously flirting with you I think you should be able to ask. However it depends how you asked them. If you say something like"You seem to flirt with me a lot, not trying to be offensive, but are you gay/bi?" Is fine. However if you just randomly blurt out something like "what are you gay?" They may be offended by it.
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Joby Originally Answered: Why cant people mind their own business?
People want to talk and be heard, they want to be regarded as well-informed on life events, they regard what you describe as exchanging information or opinions.

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