What is WRONG with ME ?!?!?!?
Topic: What is WRONG with ME ?!?!?!?
June 16, 2019 / By Dianne Question:
My problem is having low self confidence... no matter what my parents and my boyfriend tell me about how beautiful I am... I think I'm fat and need to loose more weight in order to be pretty and accepted by others... more than anyone this is BOTHERING ME :(( I need help
I tried to fight with myself by trying out dance classes, sports, I went shopping to get a new style and did anything I could to keep myself happy... (its not working)
when I think about it there is not a single thing that other girls have that I don't and there is nothing that I want that my parents dont buy me, but why they can be happy and I cant ?!?!?! :(((
I use to be a very social person but right now believe it or not I don't want to be around anyone and I stoped hanging out with my friends... my parents and my boyfriend think that I am just busy with school that's why I choose to be alone...
I know that I am getting too skinny, you might think I'm crazy but the only way that I am happy of my self is to loose weight... I'm 5.3/ 107 lbs
getting good grades, going to party, NOTHING can satisfy me from my heart :((
I just act like I'm happy because I dont want to hurt my boyfriend or parents because they are doing anything they can for me...
I need serious help I want to find a way to help myself... I dont want to go to doctor with my mom and I dont want anybody to find out about this especially my boyfriend because he is doing anything he can to keep me the happiest girl (he told me) :((( (but the problem is deeper and will not be solved like this)
I would like to know how to rescue myself from this, noone undrestands me I act differently in person but I am suffering from something inside :' '(
Best Answers: What is WRONG with ME ?!?!?!?
Carey | 8 days ago
You're not "too skinny" For a woman at 5'3 at 107 you're fine. I'm 5'7 and I weigh 110 and I still have some extra fat. You need to get a positive outlook. Start thinking positives instead of negatives. You are definatly over reacting. This also might be a way for you to get attention.Ask yourself, "Am I loved?' and it sounds like you are since you have parents and a boyfriend.
👍 144 | 👎 8
Did you like the answer? What is WRONG with ME ?!?!?!?
Share with your friends
Originally Answered: What's Wrong With Me?
I often pondered about this type of subject myself. I honestly don't see how people get bored in a relationship unless feelings where not really there to begin with. However knowing him for 4 years makes the situation even more complicated and confusing to me. I will say this, your boredom has probably effected him in the exact same way and now you two are just not clicking anymore. If it's not another guy talking in your ear then there is something deep rooted behind the scenes that's doing this to you and now him. I doubt you can find someone that isn't a friend first to treat you better and I know as sure as bread is a grocery you don't want to ruin a 4 year relationship. START TALKING! It's how things get solved my dear :)
What you're feeling is very common nowadays, despite what society is telling you money cannot buy your happiness nor should you have to be a skeleton to be considered beautiful. i think that you are trying to protect too many people from something that is only going to hurt you in the long run. It may be difficult but if this continues you need to talk to your parents and your boyfriend (seriously i think it would be a lot more painful for them to realize this has been going on for a while and you didn't tell them) If you catch this early enough you may be able to escape getting professional help but i would seriously consider seeing a counselor to make sure it won't happen again. Hope this helps :)
👍 50 | 👎 1
you need to find something productive that makes you happy and proud of yourself that is a hobby. Art, Music, Writing, Reading, volunteering or something. You do need to work on your self esteem and unfortunantly when you have self confidence issues, its usually not the time to have a boyfriend. How can you give yourself fully to someone else and get to know eachother if you dont know yourself completely. It's difficult I know, but you have a loving family that wants the best for you. Reach out for help and find things that keep you busy but most of ALL makes you happy for being YOU!
👍 43 | 👎 -6
I think this is pretty common...it might originate from early childhood- ---when you were a child you learned that love means "getting anything you want"(almost every toy/clothes/anything you wanted,and it was yours)...and this is not what love is.
Over the years you learned that they love you because they give you every thing you wanted....- anything you wanted it was your and your parents gave it to you instead of giving you real love with verbal and emotional communication....
i dont know your life or your parents either...but it could be a possibility.....
and thats why you feel maybe something is missing/why you can never be happy........
but it sounds like your parents genuinely care, soooo it could be a mental disorder...............
just think of all the love and support you have...I know that if i told my parents this theyd tell me they dont care...think of how lucky you are....................
👍 36 | 👎 -13
You need to see someone. If you've already tried everything you can think of you just might have to bite the bullet and let your family know how you're feeling so they can help you help yourself. From the way you've described it it sounds like you're only becoming more unhappy with time, not better.
👍 29 | 👎 -20
u sound just like me.
Exacly like me.
when i was younger i was always skinny u kno.
i was 14 n i began to think i could lose some wieght so i did...
but i just always felt like i could lose more, that i was fat. i always saw myself as fat....when i really wasnt... and i began to realize that i had a problem..bc my freind started to say she was fat when she wasnt n i noticed how much she was struggling with that.. n how much she lost. from her i myself.
really u need like a positive person to talk with like a counselor or somthing to improve your self confidence, it can really help.
aslo i too push people away...ive pushed many people away.. and i dont know why i do that..
i think its beacuse i feel like they dont understand me...and i also feel like i dont really understand myself . lol
nyways strange how much we have in common.
i havnt gotten over the issue..
but i tell myself that im beautiful and everyday i accept myself more and more.. threw my eyes.
👍 22 | 👎 -27
Originally Answered: What is wrong with me?
your 15.... which explains the fact you are deppressed . best way to treat it to use medicine .but before read this article and make sure you have theses symptoms:/Depression is a state of low mood and aversion to activity that can affect a person's thoughts, behavior, feelings and physical well-being. It may include feelings of sadness, anxiety, emptiness, hopelessness, worthlessness, guilt, irritability, or restlessness.
Depressed people may lose interest in activities that once were pleasurable, or suffer cognitive impairments (e.g., difficulty concentrating, remembering details, making decisions). They may contemplate or attempt suicide. Their weight may change dramatically. Insomnia, excessive sleeping, fatigue, loss of energy, or aches, pains or digestive problems that are resistant to treatment may be present.
Depressed mood is a normal reaction to certain life events, a symptom of many medical conditions (e.g., Addison's disease, hypothyroidism), and a feature of certain psychiatric syndromes.