Originally Answered: Getting really emotional over virtually nothing? /:?
This answer, like all my answers, will use more words than necessary. I've never learned the skill of concision. So please be patient.
All my life I have been interested in religions. I'm not religious, I tend to be agnostic, but I've always been fascinated with religions. I've read about a lot of them, and I find they all have wisdom. I like to think I've learned something from all of them.
Okay, so years ago I had a GF who was a fundamentalist Christian. She made me read a book written by her pastor about 'Spiritual Warfare'. This book held that The Devil gets into our hearts and gives us bad emotions. We wake up one day and we're angry or sad or frightened or despairing, and we don't know why! So we find things to be angry or sad or whatever about. Instead of things in our life making us angry or sad or whatever, we get the emotion first and then assign it to someone or something, to make sense of it.
Now I don't believe in the Devil. But it can't be denied that we all do this, we wake up one morning with an emotion and go trying to find a reason for it, but often there is no real reason, just the emotion itself. So what we should do is stop and think what it is that's really making us sad or angry, if anything.
Undoubtedly you've had the experience of talking to someone who was really angry about something, and when you heard about it you tried to explain to them that it was nothing to be angry about. They misunderstood something someone said, or they were angry about something that happens to everyone, it's just the way it is. And no doubt you've seen that people who are angry don't like to be told there's nothing to be angry about. 8^)
I don't really know enough about your problem to tell you exactly what you should do or how you should feel, and I don't presume to be able to solve the problem or make you feel better. But just as a general rule, depression is our way of punishing ourselves for perceived shortcomings and failures. The solution to depression (often, not always) is for you to feel better about yourself, to be more accepting of yourself. In other words, it's not about your cousin, it's not about you and your cousin, it's about YOU. (Hmmm. I don't mean that to sound as cruel as it does.)
TV and ice cream and crying doesn't help. (Well, crying helps a little, not much). You need to just think about something else until you're able to think about this with a little more equanimity. And to stop blaming yourself. This is what Christians call 'spiritual warfare'. You need to be a spiritual warrior. 8^)